Choose Purpose. Choose Peace.
There's a storm going on all around us and we stand in the center of the storm in complete peace. We are at peace. We embrace peace. We are not the storm. We are peace.
Healing is hard work but with daily intentional effort we can live lives where peace and pain co-exist. No life is completely without pain. Some have more than others. But there are many lives completely devoid of peace- even those who have less pain. I carry pain and peace around with me daily. I cannot imagine how I could make it through the day with my pain if it weren't for my healthy dose of peace.
"There is no way to peace. Peace is the way." -Thich Nhat Hanh
We can travel to the farthest edges of the earth seeking what's been inside us all along, never finding it because we looked for it in places and things instead of inside of ourselves. The present moment allows us to accept what is with no comparison or judgement. It's not good or bad...it just is. It's not fair or unfair...it just is.
In order to live fully, we must connect to the present moment. My mind when left to itself will constantly drift to the past wondering what I could've done to save my child or it drifts to the future hurting over all the memories we will never get to make together. Neither thoughts of the past nor the future bring me peace in these scenarios. Neither the past nor the future can be controlled fully by human beings. I surrender to the fact that I am not in control. There are things that have happened in my life that I did not cause. I am not being punished. I forgive myself for not knowing what I did not know. I surrender to what is. I accept my reality. I allow myself to be.
In meditation, I connect myself to the present. Staying present helps relieve anxiety and the debilitating pain of grief. It doesn't make the grief go away but it neutralizes its paralyzing power. Meditation helps us acknowledge that we are not the things that are going on in our lives. Those things can exist and we can exist in a state of peace, simultaneously. I can sit on a bed of rocks and feel the pain of the rocks but I don't become the rocks nor do I become the pain. I don't try to adjust my body because no matter where I move I will still feel the poke of the rocks so instead I accept what is. Acceptance and Surrender are instrumental in finding peace. I can relax my mind and feel the pain of the rocks while feeling complete peace and contentment. I am not the rocks- I am peace. I am not the pain- I am peace. I am not my grief- I am peace.